Alright bear with me through a little bit of stupidity…
Everyone should be proud of the person they’re with. Yes, people show it in different ways, but for the most part, if you’re proud of your relationship, you’ll show that in some way. Just like people wear their favorite sports team jersey on game-day, or red/white/blue on July 4th.
You want to show off what you’re proud of, you want others to know you care about something and you’re passionate about it. So how do you show that in a relationship? Again, some people show it in different ways, but typically someone’s form of “showing off” (whether it be a talent, a friend, an object, a love, or a lover) is the same across the board.
My girlfriend started off super fired up about our relationship and it seemed to continue this way for a while. Changing her FB profile photo often, but always cycling in her favorite new photo of us. Setting the background on her computer or her phone to a photo of us. And she loved it when I did the same. She liked seeing a photo of the 2 of us as my FB default, or on my phone, or photos I’d put in frames around my room… And when I changed my phone background to something that wasn’t us, she got upset.
Fast-forward to now-ish. She hasn’t had a photo of the 2 of us on her FB since February, when the shit with the guy started brewing behind my back.
Her friends jokingly changed the photo on her phone a while back (sometime around then), and she never changed it back to a photo of us.
She finally got an iPhone, and I offered to give her some photos of us to use as her background (since she loves it so much when she sees a photo of us on my iPhone, and she used to like it on hers), she declined saying she would rather just have her own wallpapers (Her original excuse was she wanted to have a photo of her art on there, which is acceptable, but it’s been a month and a half).
She never posts about us doing anything together, or anything like that. I’m never in her photos. She never really gives a shit about sharing stuff involving me unless I hint at me liking it if she would do it.
“Oh you should check us in here or post a photo of us!”
“Oh yeah. Okay.”
I just posted a bunch of super awesome photos to FB with a bunch of photos that she kept saying “Oh that’s a really cute photo of us!!”. But when it came down to it, her FB default ended up just being a photo of her.
Ok, now please don’t misunderstand all that, I’m not complaining “because my girlfriend doesn’t have a photo of us as her default on Facebook!!”, I’m complaining that her general passion and excitement about being in a relationship with me has obviously died down despite her recent improved efforts to get things back to normal.
Still no interest in looking at a photo of us every day on her phone, no interest in having a photo of the 2 of us on her Facebook, no interest in “bragging” about us to the public.
I really feel like this is all going to come off wrong and you’re all going to think I’m whining and bitching about my girlfriend not obnoxiously bragging about me… but that isn’t really the case.
Just a little public acknowledgement that we’re together besides her FB status being “In a Relationship” would be nice. It’s Facebook… it’s fucking stupid… and I actually kind of hate it… But I still envy the relationships I see on there that have been going strong for years and years and even into marriage, and the guys and girls seem just as much in-love and stoked about each other as they were in the beginning. Writing on each others’ walls, posting about things they’re doing together. Just generally being publicly happy.
What’s a relationship if you’re not proud of it in public? What kind of love is it when you don’t want to scream it from on top of a mountain?
Are you even happy you’re with me still?